Sometimes I think guys are so simple it's hard to understand them. We, women, always expect for everyone around us to make well-thought-through decisions, meaning one would need to analyze all the facts and think about the consequences before leaping forward. We really overestimate the males around us, always wondering to ourselves; why did he do this? what is he thinking? The truth is that he did it because he was thinking with his 'other head' and he wasn't thinking about anyone but himself when he did it. To know more about a man's psyche is to not try to get inside of it. It is what it is, he didn't think his decision through so why should we be trying to dissect his brain, everything is on the surface. Think simple ladies.
Men don't think with their head, on the contrary they think with their anatomy and heart. They make their decisions purely based on emotion for the purpose of gaining immediate results. Women, on the other hand, tend to overthink everything. We want to figure it out and then talk about all the pros and cons. Men don't like talking, they are action-makers.
Men are like babies, they need love and nurture, they are not meant to live alone, while a lot of women are very comfortable being single. Nobody likes it but we just cope with loneliness better, after all we were taught the home-ec skills in middle school. I even noticed that in multi-children families boys get babied more. A boy always has females around him starting with his mother and eventually leading to wife and maybe even daughter(s). Women spoil the other sex with all the warmth and attention and then we wonder why is it that men expect their wifes to cook and clean. Well the reality is that the ones that have those expectations are the ones whose mothers were housewives and babied the hell out of them. While men grow up prepared to stand their corner and hunt for food most of them don't know what to do with what they hunted so tirelessly.
Some roles have changed; men learned how to cook, clean and do laundry and women picked the head of the household title and went to work, but the bottom line is the nature of the sexes will not change. Women will always be the nurturers and keep spoiling their men and men will keep taking it for granted only realizing the concept of household-survival once the woman is no longer there to keep it up.
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
The Mars, the Venus and the Home Ec
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Interesting words. As a man I find what you have to say in the main true however we are a little deeper than you think. We often play to the sterotype if only to have an easy life. However men have emotions, we can think, create, listen, learn to understand and love. We nuture our young as daddies and protect our other halfs. We feel pain and experience the love of life everyday! I could go on but I won't as we are simple!
The_Architect
I absolutely agree with you that there are good men out there. A man feels more often harder than a woman but we showcase our emotions in a different way. I think there is still a man out there to whom I can relate, my other half. It's unfortunate that so many disappointed me along the way, of course I take some responsibility in that. I make a lot of mistakes. My pride keeps saving me from sinking to the bottom, Thank God
I want to offer more wiser words to somehow give enlightenment. I have read a lot of your blog as it offers a fantastic insight into the truth of living a life on your terms. It would be good to see you meet, 'that guy' you so desire and hope that 'us' men don't let you down too often. Maybe a shrinking world will let us all share our experiences of love where we can all learn more about the opposite sex.
The Architect
yeah I am damaged by time and bad experiences. If there is someone out there who understands me I will embrace that relationship whether it's romantic or platonic. Having friends is really enough. Having friends with benefits is even better :) LOL
I take it the friends reference was a general comment and not directed at me? I note that you will never again gain new friends by the internet (your blog). I would have loved a new friend but I understand your reasons, I would feel the same. I know what's important in your life, your pride. Good luck with your life.
The Architect
the comment was directed at you and perhaps I already went back on my word but I did make some friends online but all within United States. I will not get romantically involved via computer screen. Keeping it local is on my agenda but it's the same old bullshit either way - Just taking it one day at a time. My pride is not really what's important but it prevents me from making a fool of myself.
Yes I'm British so its a no. I will admire from afar!
The Architect
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